Day 20 Make 5 small changes

Day 20

Make 5 small changes in your routine today. Get your morning coffee at a different chain or location, change your driving route to work or your morning destination or change the order of things you do the same each day. Little changes in routine can make your entire day take a new shape and you have new opportunities to have great new experiences or meet new people. Small changes can lead to big results!

To new experiences!

Day 19 Don't adopt other peoples' "stuff"

Day 19

When someone makes a little comment about your personality traits or your physical traits and those comments don't make you feel good, take a moment to realize that none of those comments are really about you. Take a moment to remember this before you decide to let it affect you. If they tell you that you talk too fast or too slow or that they don't like your hair style, none of these comments are about you. They are about them. People who don't feel good about themselves tend to make comments in passing that are meant to knock others down and lift themselves up. Don't internalize these comments or try to change. Just keep being you and hope that the other person can find happiness.

Know your own goodness

Day 18 Create Half Goals

Day 18

Create a short term goal or a short term variation of your long term goal- A half goal... Attaining a goal will keep you motivated and inspired while you continue to work toward a larger goal. Choose rewards ahead of time and treat yourself to the reward after each mini goal that you accomplish. This is the essence of basking. Dream big but enjoy each day, each moment, and each little goal that you reach!

Rewards can be yummy!

Day 17 Lift Others Around You

Day 17

When you are with others, regardless if they are a new acquaintance or an old friend, each time you see them, leave them in a better place than they were before they spent time with you. You hold so much power and your attitude and delivery can bring others around you way up or way down. Make an effort each day to impact everyone in your life positively. When they leave a meeting with you let them walk away energized and inspired. To bring others down with your own weight, leaves both of you heavy but to work toward sharing positivity and offering a good outlook on each situation you experience, will put you and everyone in your life in a better mindset. Share goodness and lift others because ultimately it will lift you too.

Spread Love

Day 16 Stay in control of your reactions

Day 16

Be in charge of your reactions and responses. When we are passionate about a cause or a person, hearing certain stories can quickly ignite our fire or rage within. Take ten seconds after hearing a story that is initially upsetting and then ask yourself if this really affects you directly. If you are expressing empathy that is just fine but if you are internalizing a situation that someone you care about is going through but doesn't affect you on any other level, then you have to put up your wall. Offer input and advice if you are asked and you would like to but back off emotionally so that you don't get sucked into the web of turmoil. It is natural to internalize things that go on around us but it isn't necessary or healthy. Be a supportive friend but don't adopt another persons problem in the shuffle of it all. Make a conscious effort to separate yourself just in case the emotions become intense. You can be a good friend and still turn off your internal reactions. After you leave that friend you should not have their baggage with you. You'll be a better friend to them the next day too if you haven't carried their suitcase with you all night.

This is the only type of baggage allowed!

Day 15 Look At Situations From Another Perspective

Day 15
Look at a situation from another persons perspective. If a customer service agent is treating you poorly or you feel unappreciated by your partner or children, spend a moment trying to look at the situation from the other persons point of view. The customer service rep may be having a bad day or recently suffered a loss or tragedy. You may be upset with your partner for working late but perhaps haven't stopped to think that they are the one stuck at work. You may feel unappreciated by your child but they may not know how to express their gratitude or may not even realize how they are coming off. This isn't to say that you aren't entitled to feel however you are feeling it's just that looking at a situation in a new way often brings things to a positive light. Once we realize that people aren't coming from a place of anger or disrespect it puts our hurt feelings at ease. Just take a moment to look at each situation from all sides before allowing yourself to get upset.

Sprinkles make smiles

Day 14 Set your clocks 12 minutes ahead

Day 14
Set all of your clocks 12 minutes early. This way you avoid speeding tickets, unnecessary stress and you’ll get to your destination on time. Bring a book or magazine in your car or your bag so you can relax during your extra minutes or grab a cup of coffee. You not only eliminate unwanted stress from your life but you also add relaxation time by creating bonus bask minutes. It's not that fashionable to be late regardless of what you have heard and arriving out of breath is for the birds so simply set your clocks 12 minutes ahead and watch the stress leave your life :).

Lulu gets it!