Be in charge of your reactions and responses. When we are passionate about a cause or a person, hearing certain stories can quickly ignite our fire or rage within. Take ten seconds after hearing a story that is initially upsetting and then ask yourself if this really affects you directly. If you are expressing empathy that is just fine but if you are internalizing a situation that someone you care about is going through but doesn't affect you on any other level, then you have to put up your wall. Offer input and advice if you are asked and you would like to but back off emotionally so that you don't get sucked into the web of turmoil. It is natural to internalize things that go on around us but it isn't necessary or healthy. Be a supportive friend but don't adopt another persons problem in the shuffle of it all. Make a conscious effort to separate yourself just in case the emotions become intense. You can be a good friend and still turn off your internal reactions. After you leave that friend you should not have their baggage with you. You'll be a better friend to them the next day too if you haven't carried their suitcase with you all night.
This is the only type of baggage allowed!
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